Something I've found consistent among
my friend (who are not also psychics-mostly) are commonalities involving
phrases and sophistries, that I'm sure, if they thought about it, they would not
say. Some of these phrases are offensive-some insensitive, some inane and some
superfluous.
I'm just asking that you take them
into consideration, when speaking to the mystics in your life.
1) If you're as good a psychic as you
think
you are,
then you probably knew I was going to
a-blow you off
b-be late
c- completely disregard your insight or guidance
d- need you at 2 in morning.
I've had several people in my life say
(versions of) these things to me.
Even more tell me they said these things to
other psychics/mystics.
The first half of this statement:
"If you're as good a psychic as you think you are..."
Wow! Do people talk to you like that
in your line of work?
If so, you need another place of work.
I think I have a fair (if
not under-rated) evaluation of my skills/gift set.
If not, then you most likely wouldn't
want a reading from me.
The second set of variables--Yes, I probably did know that you were
going to blow me off for the movies, or be late to my event, or completely
disregard my insight, or need me at 2 in the morning. Because I am not Eeyore
(of Winnie the Pooh fame), I live in the hope that better will come from you.
If I did know you would be inconsiderate in this manner-it's because I know elements
of your personality. My gift is not an excuse for your insensitivity.
2) "I just want to get your take
on...." (there are variations of this one to) "How do you feel
about..." etc.
Ok, I have a very long time friend who (mostly) gets the "friend who
is a psychic" verses the "Psychic friend" thing, (sometimes
better than I do). Sometimes she will define "I'm asking what you think as
my friend".
When she wants a psychic-read on
something---that is what she says.
In my experience with her (I love
you, Tammy), I have learned that my advise as her friend,
is very different than my advise as a psychic
adviser.
Another counselor (not a mystic at
all) calls this "copping a psychic feel".
I find this is pretty close to how I
feel about it.
which brings me to the next item on
the list...
3) If you want a reading, Ask for one.
The odds are, I will say yes. If you are my friend, relative, acquaintance,
client ,
if you are having an issue, or crises, don't
have the funds.
Like most of the people whom I know,
who make their living in this way,
I am a compassionate being.
Please don't manipulate me. I, like most of my
mystical group, know I am being manipulated.
"I just don't know what to do.
If only I knew what was going to happen".
Besides, most people are reasonably
obvious about it.
Please, have some respect for
yourself. Have some respect for me...just ask.
4) A Corollary: Please don't say to
your friends: "I don't know what she charges...she reads for me for
free." or the related "I'm sure I can get her to read for you for
free."
IF I am your friend/relative/acquaintance,
then you know what I do for a living.
I've had an acquaintance invite a
friend of hers to a trance session.
Then, take me aside before the event.
Then, tell me that she told this friend I
would charge her the same fee I had agreed to for the (original) woman, which
was far less, because the (original) woman told me she was having financial
difficulties.
Let me do my own favors. Trust me to conduct
my own business. If you appreciate the readings or things I do for you, please
pass on my business cards. If you truly don't know how much my fee is, give
them my information, I will tell them. I am not making business agreements on
your behalf. Please do not do so on mine.
5) "I got a psychic reading from
another psychic and they told me this.
What did they mean by that?"
My pat response to that is "I
cannot be held responsible for what another psychic told you."
which usually garners "I'm not
asking you to be responsible, but what did they mean?"
Honestly, I don't know.
Why didn't you ask them when you had
the reading? or afterward when you thought of it?
If, however you have a question
because of something another reader told to you, that is more constructed in an
independent manner, I might be able to help you.
i...e...."Do you see me writing
a book?" (based on something another reader told you).
6) This is a particular pet-peeve of
mine and has caused me to reflect upon my conversations with people in other
professions. It comes up, often, when I am in a group circumstance, and someone
mentions what I do.
"Oh, I had a reading once by
someone--and they were the BEST reader ever. This person told me how many
children I was going to have and what their names were and that one of them was
going to be missing a toe..just the BEST reading anyone could ever have....So,
can I have your business card?"
Uh-No.
No one wants to be compared to an
unknown quantity or a ghost.
I've had people tell me about their
amazing readings with former readers "who are dead now".
Or they "don't know where they
are, now".
As much as I might appreciate the
business, I won't appreciate putting my gifts out on the line
for you, to be told how wonderful
this other reader was.
7) Bargaining my fees. This can take
many shapes and expressions:
"I just want a 15 minute reading because
I know that psychics can tell me many things in a very short time.
(after a reading) "Oh darn, I
don't have the fee. I only have $20."
(after a reading) "Could you
just bill my paypal account?"
"Can I post-date a check?"
"But what if I just want to know
this ONE thing?"
"You've been given the gifts
freely from God. I believe you should give them freely to
others"
(she draws a deep breath)
Everyone (that I know) who has a job
or work is compensated for it.
Luke 10:1 states "A laborer is
worthy of his hire".
You only want a 15 minute reading,
you should be seeking an event that supports that.
I've found that clients and acquaintances
(often) don't fully understand the commitment
of a reader. I've been conducting readings for
36 years.
I've had a multitude of differing
forms of training.
I bought my Tarot deck and my crystal
ball.
I (most likely) pay rent (in some
form) where you are sitting.
I have set aside this time for you
and only for you.
I am not multitasking while I conduct
a reading for you. (which is oft times a better deal than one gets with one's
doctor, and they are usually compensated more.)
Don't have the full fee-and haven't
told me ahead of time?
I WILL accept what you have. I will
never read for you again.
I don't accept checks. I won't accept
your
check, even if you tell me it's good,
because, I have had to many checks go
south on me, and I cannot afford
the cost of your reading plus the
bank fees.
Again, I will never read for you
again.
You just want to know this ONE thing.
I prepare the same for one thing as
twenty things.
I prepare my reading area, consecrate a
candle, just for your reading.
I prepare my spirit for the work at
hand.
I am worthy of my fee.
"You should give your gift freely to others, because it is a gift
from God"
OK-lets talk about that: Barbara
Streisand has an exceptional gift from God.
Do you get to see her for free?
It happens that most of the people
that I know who have exceptional gifts,
do a great deal of charity work.
Y0-yo mah does concerts for charity.
I, have spoken at fund-raisers for
free
and conducted many readings for people who
could not afford it.
The fact that you do not honor my
gift, is not an excuse for me not to.
And speaking of
"dishonoring" a gift--first cousin to the above issue,
are people who will belittle one's
abilities (sometimes in a left-handed manner)
to get their reading for free.
"you didn't tell me
anything"
"Yeah, but I already know
that"
"I'd rather have false
hope"
"you didn't tell me what I
wanted to know"
Now, I will say that there are times
when I do not "gel" with someone in a reading.
I will return their fee.
That, or any of the above statements
will have me returning your fee.
I will never accept an appointment
from you again.
And the last thing (I can think of
right now) one should not say to one's psychic friend:
You're too evolved to be reacting
like this.
Psychics, mediums, healers,
empaths--with very few exceptions, are people too.
We will get angry, frustrated, tired,
cranky, disenchanted, hungry
we will lose faith, we will lose
hope, we will lose patience.
To expect less means (at least to me)
is that you are only wanting to
interact with one dimension of me:
The mystic.
from my perspective, that makes you a
client/student.
Until next time,
Eat something wonderful,
and live a life worth loving!
-Kim
